“Our birth is but a sleep and a forgetting
The soul that rises with us, our life’s star
Had elsewhere its setting
And cometh from afar”. Wordsworth
How did your birth shape you?
Our birth patterns shape the way we move forward in life, when it’s important. The mothers I teach are always afraid that the birth patterns will have a big impact on their child’s experience. Although these patterns are quite deep, they are chosen by the child as vehicles for growth and learning.
Conception is our entry into the world of form
At conception, the influences that shape us converge and explode in our own personal ‘big bang’. We journey for nine months, establishing all the patterns that will govern us later on in life. Birth is our first step into the world as an independent being. Each one of us approaches this transition in our own unique way. Some, eager to experience life beyond the womb, arrive ahead of time and pop right out. Others take their time, resist, get stuck and need assistance in the process.
Birth is primarily determined by the willingness or unwillingness of the foetus to emerge, and partly by the mother’s ability to surrender to the process. Where mother and child were one, now each one’s uniqueness is affirmed. For the child, birth is the first action it ever takes. It will now experience autonomy within the greater womb of the cosmos.
The way we are born establishes the way we take action when it is important
The way we are born sets up how will will engage with the big moves we’ll make in our lives. These are big shifts like leaving home for the first time, our first job, a commited relationship, starting a family or a business. Just as birth is a quantum leap from one dimension of life to another, these big steps are our own quantum leaps. If our first one was challenging, we tend to recreate that way of moving ourselves forward.
Arriving on time: When baby arrives on time in a straightforward manner, we tend to take action very simply and directly . There is no hesitation. We become aware of a need to act and simply get on with it.
Late birth: We are reluctant to come into the world, to get moving, and take that first step into the unknown, so we hang on for as long as we can. The same pattern of action will repeat itself in life.
Breech birth or feet first: We take action by jumping in ‘feet first’. We act without thinking things through.
Umbilical cord around the neck: Baby starts moving forward but movement is impeded by the cord pressing against the neck and blocking the airways. Outside intervention is required and the doctors cut the cord so the baby can breathe. When this person needs to act decisively, a feeling of breathlessness or panic may overwhelm them. Then out of nowhere, the pressure is released, often assisted by some very small action taken by someone else.
Forceps or ventouse: Here a lot of pressure is applied to the head as baby is pulled from one environment into another one. Later on, a state of absence arises when they need to take action. There can be anxiety when approaching big transitions as if they were resisting the pain they felt the first time. At times they may need to be pulled into taking action, browbeaten into movement.
Waters break early: Water represents the emotional aspect of our being. When the amniotic sac breaks but contractions do not begin, the signal to move has come but baby won’t go with the flow, and stays in the discomfort of a dry womb, until they are induced with drugs. In life, the person may get a signal telling them to move forwards. They resist and remain in an uncomfortable situation until they are induced by outside forces to move on. They emerge feeling a spaced out, all emotion spent, and feel no connection the situation they have just left. When the waters are broken for us, we need to be prodded to feel our feelings.
Induced: When we are induced at the very beginning of our lives, we need people or circumstances to force us into action, such as deadlines. We do not apply ourselves methodically but do it all at the last minute. As the pattern transforms we are able to pace ourselves in a more balanced way. When epidural or drugs are used, we have a tendency to go absent, feel spaced out and unclear when we take action.
Twins: Twins generally arrive 3 weeks early due to lack of space in the womb. The first out tends to lead in life, while the second out is happy to follow. When one twin dies, the survivor will fill the empty space with things: a shop full of objects, a home full of stuff. Twins generally create a space for others in life.
Premature birth: Our very first transition into society was unusual: rather than being held by mother and going home we are separated from ‘society’ and placed in an incubator, apart from everyone else. This experience creates a tendency to choose work assisting others in their own transition into society. This can be social work, assisting wayward teens, addicts or refugees. In a study on the births of nurses who worked in premature wards it was discovered that the majority of them were born prematurely. Physically there is a tendency to have very thin and vulnerable bodies or to compensate by gaining weight and creating a false womb.
Caesarian: In the case of caesarian birth, the acyion of going from A to B in life is far from direct. We get stuck, flag our distress, and rely on outside intervention to move us from where we are to where we want to be. There can be an expectation that others should do it for us or that we are unable to do it for ourselves.
Elective caesarian: When mum and baby go into contraction together it establishes babies rhythm in life. Without this experience we tend to float, uncertain about what we want or how to get it. We look to others and find someone whose rhythm appeals to us: a parent, a teacher, partner or guru, and follow their rhythm. We may recreate getting pushed out before we are ready.
Expressions of our being
All of these birth patterns are expressions of the life force of the child and support their learning and evolution. Within each pattern is the potential for it to transform and grow us. Once the pattern transforms the pattern and behaviour change.
Transforming our birth patterns
Metamorphic Touch sessions act as a catalyst so that the person can transform longstanding patterns. This practice of gentle touch and unconditional love acts as the earth to the person’s seed. We do not seek to fix of heal them, but the contact between us allows their own Life Force, guided by their inate intelligence, to grow them from within. Find out about learning the Metamorphic Touch on a workshop or on Skype.
In 2004, I began training in Metamorphic Technique with it's founder, Gaston Saint-Pierre. I became a practitioner, then a teacher in 2006, which led me to run workshops all around the world. I then created Sacred Life Alchemy, the Co-Create with the Field Manifesting Process, and Heart Listening, three profound healing systems to transform your reality into more of what you want. In 2017, I renamed my teaching Metamorphic Touch to reflect the new insights and perspectives I bring to this approach. Metamorphic Touch is a powerful healing modality to transform your life.